(LifeSiteNews) – Ten years after the Obergefell ruling, there is absolutely no political will to be found anywhere in Washington, D.C. to overturn the U.S. Supreme Court’s disastrous 2015 decision which has obscured, if not eviscerated, the immutable definition of marriage.
I’ve questioned the experts over the last two years. The momentum to restore the timeless definition of marriage that once existed in D.C.’s conservative think tanks and policy institutes has evaporated.
That unwillingness to challenge Obergefell became crystal clear during the final days of the 2024 presidential race when Vivek Ramaswamy spoke at the giant October 27 Trump campaign rally at Madison Square Garden: “Our message to gay Americans tonight is this: You’re free to marry who you want without the government standing in your way.”
A few days later, JD Vance told Joe Rogan, “I wouldn’t be surprised if me and Trump won, just, the normal gay guy vote,” coining a term which immediately became a proud badge of honor among conservative-leaning homosexual men.
The new GOP messaging was clear: Homosexuality is “normal,” and same-sex “marriage” is an unquestionable right.
I’ve been chronicling the quiet rise of LGBT influence within conservative circles that emerged during the 2020 presidential campaign. Trump was canonized as “the most pro-gay president in American history.” Those who identify as “gaycons” or “homocons” came out of the woodwork to support Trump’s bid for reelection, too.
Same-sex “marriage” has also been openly celebrated by both the President and First Lady Melania Trump.
What would it take for conservatives in the nation’s capital to overturn Obergefell?
It would likely require a critical mass of same-sex attracted men and women — including those who have availed themselves of same-sex “marriage” — to generously grant permission for our courts to do so.
Self-identifying gay conservatives must pave the way to restore marriage and family, to reestablish timeless principles and immutable definitions, and to reopen the public square for the proclamation of truth.
We need to be intellectually curious and intellectually honest enough to judge our own lives and consider what role we have played or may be continuing to play in the liberal world order as it morphs into woke Neo-Marxism.
Personal autonomy is a good thing, an important component of human dignity and happiness, but clinging to perceived rights afforded by personal autonomy in order to justify continued behaviors and policies which ultimately erode society by unraveling the fabric of marriage and family life –– and which have led to the undefining of man and woman, husband and wife, boy and girl, son and daughter –– is to collaborate with objective evil.
Active homosexuals — including men who have married men and men who have obtained children through surrogacy — have risen to the top within the conservative America First movement and the Trump administration, all the while same-sex attracted men and women who have chosen to live chaste lives are ignored, as if we don’t exist.
What the conservative world is up against
In 2023, much-admired conservative author and thinker Spencer Klavan published a remarkable book: “How to Save the West: Ancient Wisdom for 5 Modern Crisis.”
Despite the theme of his book, it begins with an outright rejection of ancient wisdom and the timeless truth about the immutable definition of marriage, an institution that has done immense good for civilization.
The book is dedicated to his “husband,” Joshua Herr. Both work for the conservative news and commentary website, The Daily Wire.
Young Klavan is brilliant. He has a formidable mind. But he fails to acknowledge that by having entered into a homosexual “marriage,” he is himself playing a not-insignificant role in the downfall of the West.
In a discussion with Dinesh D’Souza, Klavan said that the crisis of reality our culture now faces boils down to a single question: “Is there anything absolutely true, no matter who says otherwise? Is it just my truth [versus] your truth, or is there absolute truth?”
“There is such a thing as truth. We can know it,” Klavan concluded.
If he were serious about the pursuit of truth and saving the West, Klavan would renounce his “marriage” and publicly proclaim the sublime, immutable truth of complementarity: that marriage is conjugal and can never in reality be genderless.
He needs to put his money where his mouth is, in other words. After all, it stands to reason that it is impossible to save Western Civilization while simultaneously contributing to its downfall.
This is not a condemnation of Klavan and Herr. It is, however, me — a former gay man — sounding the alarm as to the dangerous political power LGBT forces have amassed, and the damage that it has caused within conservatism.
Same-sex “marriage” is not rooted in conservatism, as some have claimed, and it is not at all guiltless when it comes to the rise of transgenderism and non-binary-ism which are literally mutilating our children’s bodies, minds, and souls.
Two years later, as a guest on The Heritage Foundation’s President Kevin Roberts’ Show, Klavan suggested that the reason conservatives fixate on the rise of the “trans” establishment in our nation is because “every major cultural outlet suddenly forced it upon us.”
Interestingly, transgender activists have simply been following the gay rights playbook, which led to Obergefell.
Klavan discussed the absurdity of the “question of whether it’s possible to be born in the ‘wrong body’”? He would likely say the answer to that question is “No.”
But here’s the thing: Is it possible to be “born gay”? No. Neither are immutable traits.
‘Everybody belongs in the conservative movement, but not every idea does’
If you support same-sex “marriage,” “it means you’re not a movement conservative,” explained Heritage’s Kevin Roberts in a 2021 Ethics & Public Policy Center interview.
Conservatism is founded upon timeless principles. “Movement conservatism means ideas tethered to the permanent things, eternal principles that are 100 times more important than any political party or its fortunes in any election cycle,” said Roberts. It recognizes “the existence of an enduring moral order that all of us have imprinted on our souls, or you know, for our atheist friends, on our nature.”
“Same-sex marriage contravenes our understanding of an enduring moral order. Which is at the root of being a movement conservative,” Roberts continued. “It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it just means it’s an opportunity for people like us at Heritage to persuade you otherwise.”
Roberts made clear that there are “conservatives who are not movement conservatives because they are weak and wrong on the social issues [including] marriage.”
Astonishingly, none of that came up during his recent public discussion with Klavan.
“Everybody belongs in the conservative movement. But not every idea does,” he noted.
Katy Faust, founder of Them Before Us, the world’s premiere children’s rights organization, spoke about all this after the Republican National Committee revised its official 2024 platform dropping any mention of protecting the definition of marriage.
“Conservatism requires defending the reality that children have a right to life” and “children have a right to their mother and father,” declared Faust, before delivering a powerful punchline: “Thus man/woman marriage is the building block of society.”
My appeal to gay conservatives
Jordan Peterson has said, “Everything you do matters.”
Let’s face it: The Obergefell decision opened a Pandora’s box of evils upon the nation and it must be revisited in the same way Roe v. Wade was in 2022.
This is a message many of us do not want to hear, but it is a message we need to hear. Hopefully it’s something each of us can begin to consider, then embrace. The future of our country and the West depends on it.
The world needs to see high profile men like Spencer Klavan and Josh Herr; Ric Grenell and Matt Lashey; Peter Thiel and Matt Danzesien; Dave Rubin and David Janet; Scott Bessent and John Freeman; Guy Benson and Adam Wise; Garrett Bewkes and Bradley Bewkes; and John Reid and Alonzo Mable slough off their woke neo-Marxist fantasy marriage pretensions and reestablish their lives firmly on truth.
There is a singular truth about Marriage. It is one thing and one thing only: The permanent union of a man and a woman. Period.
Do you have the intellectual honesty and the guts to admit that we’ve gone down the wrong path via Obergefell? Or is it important to you to maintain the incredible fantasy — the illusion, the grand pretension — of same-sex marriage?
Blessed Jerzy Popieluszko helped an entire nation escape communism, and triggered a cascade of freedom across a continent, and for that he was martyred by communist forces in 1984.
Why did he risk death? He explained, “God instilled in man a desire for truth. This is why man thirsts for the truth and despises falsehood. To live in truth is the basic minimum of human dignity even if the price to defend the truth could be costly. You need to always remain faithful to the truth. Truth can never be betrayed.”
“The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it,” said Flannery O’Connor, who similarly urged, “Push back against the age as hard as it pushes against you.”
“Man does not simply exist but always decides what his existence will be, what he will become the next moment,” declared Viktor Frankl, who often wrote about finding meaning in life amid suffering. “By the same token, every human being has the freedom to change at any instant.”
Gay conservatives: At some point in your life you had the guts to “come out” as gay, then again to “come out” as conservative. Now, for the sake of our nation and the Western world and for the sake of children and those yet to be born, do you have the guts to lead the way to urge the Supreme Court to overturn its egregious Obergefell ruling?
It’s time to give up on insisting that relationships which can never — NEVER — be consummated, can legitimately be called “marriages.”
